14 months on, 14 months of Yes and reaching ‘Valentines Day’ – the day of Love and Romance. The day we declared at the beginning of this project that we would meet our partners and be sitting across from them having dinner together on the 14th February 2012.
Well, what there is to say to complete is I did not meet my husband, I am not in a relationship and I have had an extraordinary magical time. The adventures on the path to love were simply amazing and in some cases unimaginable. I have laughed, cried, been challenged, had tantrums, been ecstatically happy and had a lot of fun.
It has been privilege and honour to share the journey with my two sister friends. I will never be the same again. My reality has transformed. I am not the same person. I am living in the ‘YES’ world, goodbye resignation and my new mantra is Yes, there are available men out there for me. I know I will meet my man and we will have a great life together.
During this year I smashed my scales and I still do not know how much I weigh. The freedom that I now have around body image and reaching 60 is marvelous. My message to all you weight conscious, closet weigher’s GIVE UP the crazy behaviour.
I have more dates this year than I have in the past three years, joined many dating sites, flirted with strangers, visited Arsenal, hung out in bars, art galleries, museums, flirted with more strangers, had naughty boudoir shots done, learnt to horse ride, ski, burlesque dance, went on a seafaring weekend on my own, expanded my range of dresses and yes I am writing this sitting with a dress on whooo. Planned my marriage. There has been the inner journey of unraveling myself and reprogramming my brain patterns, disappearing anything that would get in the way of letting Mr. Delicious into my life. The finale being joining The Great Wall of Vagina and having my yoni immortalized forever.
So what next … the adventures continue. I feel there is nothing I cannot do, be or have. I shall continue to go out of my comfort zone because I want to lead a fabulous life full of fun, love, joy and expansion. A life I shall happily share with my husband when he joins me.
Sista woman out there say yes to life and live the life you love.
At Sally’s Birthday On Feb 12th ( Jan, Gail, Sally, Lisa)
Unimaginable Adventures has been one of the most amazing projects I have ever had the privilege to be part of. During the 14 month agreement between Jan, Lisa and myself, we never knew what the outcome would be. Would we be transformed? That was the pivotal question. The energy required to say Yes for 14 months solid is like a snowball: once you say Yes once, you find yourself saying Yes to things you never would have before. And that process has not ended. We, as a group of individuals are more “out there” than we ever would have been if this project had not formed. Lest we not forget, the aim was to be in a relationship by the end of that 14 months and unless something happened that I don’t know about, none of us are! That certainly wasn’t our vision at all and as we moved toward the final week and Valentine’s Day this last Tuesday, Lisa had gone to Nice for a holiday and Jan and I had to find a suitable way to celebrate and honour our project.
We saw an event advertised that seemed to be the perfect ending to this project: A gong bath of sound at my yoga centre Alchemy as well as yogic asanas in groups of two. Jan and I were of course surrounded by real couples and there was only one other twosome who attended the event as friends, but that didn’t deter us. We were out to give the concept of Valentine’s Day a blast of our energy and to take in the vibration of Love.
As we stared into each-others eyes and chanted mantras of Love, there were some extremely silly moments. We had to pull one hand back and push the other forward while singing something akin to “hi di dum da” and at one point both of us giggled like school girls. We also had to stand on one foot doing a balancing act and bringing in the male and female energy. We wobbled around and it got a little trippy when Jan’s two eyes turned into four and then into one large one at the centre of her third eye. The most powerful thing was that we were united in friendship and there was an honouring of us as two great friends supporting each other in life.
We followed up the yoga with dinner at our favourite late night Greek restaurant and all the male waiters were delighted to see us. In a room decked with flowers and reminders of Love, Jan and I talked about the year we have had. During this year I have gone on more dates than many of the years preceeding this: I have checked out internet dating and decided it is not for me; travelled alone for 3 weeks in Bali completely content with my own company; learned how to ski and am now booked on a skiing holiday in Italy in March; had erotic photos shot of myself; spoken to men all the time; met strangers by introducing myself; flirted with strangers; decided to move to Nice and open a yoga centre; started writing the book Unimaginable Adventures and attended a screen writing course in which I learned how to shift from words to visuals. In all I am more confident and more fit than I have been in years. There is a deep peace that I am experiencing just being me and from that place I know without any doubt, that the Love of my life will be with me in no time at all. I have searched my dark corners of my soul and expelled old troublesome thoughts and now my mantra is “men are available and trustworthy”. A part of me didn’t really believe that at all and I imagined that if I actually liked a man a lot, he would probably leave me. This old stagnant energy was massaged out of me in a torturous gift to myself this week.
My 50th gift to me was to have a massage that exuded pleasure. That was in fact the instruction to a masseuse who was highly recommended but in the hour and a half I was on the table in agony, there was only about 10 minutes of calm. No pleasure whatsoever! However, she did mention that she wanted to do some healing on me for the thing I want most for myself, a loving relationship. And though it was not much fun, she did say that there was a little bit of resistance and she intuitively felt I was dealing with abandonment issues. Not still I thought! But nevertheless, as she “dug into my blockages” I breathed out all those old thought forms and created a new brain pattern. I am happy just the way I am.
On Saturday we three women then did the final act of Unimaginable Adventures and had a yoni cast made to join the other 500 women’s intimate bits on the Great Wall Of Vagina. We drove down to Brighton and all of us were totally at ease doing this ridiculous thing. Our vaginas are now cast and we will see the results in a few weeks when the art work is displayed in London ( and no he won’t have names on the casts!). What that gave me was the most complete sense of sisterhood. I eagerly await my man and while I do so I will be having outrageous levels of fun with my friends. This new man will love the life I have created and he will join me in having fun. We have also decided to keep the blog open and rethink what it will be used for. I know we will keep the facebook group Unimaginable Adventures so that when those men turn up, you’ll be one of the first to know about it. But as for the journey … all I can say to you out there, say Yes to life, to fun, to stretching yourself and to new experiences. I am not, and never will be the same. Love Sally xxx
I just had a bunch of flowers delivered with the message “Life Begins At 50!” and tomorrow is my birthday. The message was extremely apt as I have never felt so alive and good about myself. This, it has to be said, is what the work of Unimaginable Adventures has given to me. It has been a gift and this last year has been one of the most expansive years I have ever lived. People who are not stretching themselves often have miserable comments to make: the weather is bad (yes it’s winter), life seems slow ( that’s because you aren’t doing anything new) and the one I heard today from a yoga teacher, January had a dark energy ( that’s because you aren’t out there having fun).
What was apparent with saying Yes to all the tasks of the last 14 months is that life took on a new vibrant energy. I never knew what was coming. Jan and Lisa carefully put their minds and emotions into stretching me out of my comfort zone and I did the same for them. As a result I am in an entirely different space than last year at this time. I mentally noted today that as I walked past a bicycle shop that one of the things I had done was to seek out one of the gorgeous male assistants when buying a new bike and we got along so well that we arranged to meet up and cycled the whole day together. He told me at the end of the ride that he had a partner and that I was the one woman that had made him consider an affair. We never met again because I am not into men who are in relationships but it was something I would not have done if I hadn’t been urged by my fellow adventurers to get out there and meet new people.
I also went on a lot of internet dating sites and found out that age is one of those bastions of sexism for women. I played around with putting different ages and noted that if I put 39 let’s say I got 90 compatibles: I put down 42 and it reduced to about 40 compatibles and then if I put down my real age I got men who were much older than me and let’s say 15 compatibles. On the last day of being 49 I know I will never use these sites again. It is not my experience in the world that old(er) men are the ones I am attracted to and I meet men of my own age easily and also those who are much younger and there is no issue with my age – just on dating sites. Men who are young at heart at any age are those I am attracted to.
I celebrate who I am at this time. I was telling a young guy who flirts with me in a coffee bar that I am turning 50. He asks me if I have children and would I like to with him? He is 27 and very attractive. I thought about that … yes possible. I told him that when I was 27 I imagined 40 was over the hill and you would wear old styles and visibly look like an old person. Now at 49 I know that’s ridiculous.
And I am reflecting about where I am on my path because as I once said to someone “you can never fall off your path”. Where we all are, is exactly where we are meant to be. One year ago I found the thought that I would not be having children of my own a tragedy that made me cry both privately and in public. I felt I had missed out on something that other’s had. One year on I feel this as a twinge of upset rather than devastation. But what it does mean is that I am not looking at every encounter with a man, as a baby producing event. I am not looking for the father of my children, the thought of which ran me for many years. I know women do this and have to do this because there is a time when it’s important to know if you want to have children and if the man you are with is committed. When I wanted children I was with a man who could not commit and I lost the chance. But there was also the pressure of having this in the background. I know that that guy is still not committed to anyone and is in fact a commitment phobe.
There is freedom in reflection and knowing that I can see a clear path ahead. In my fifties it can only get better. Fun is a natural state for me and looking good and being healthy is part of who I am. So I am enjoying my last day of the 40′s and bringing an awareness to my coming decade. It will be a deepening. It will be spiritual. My husband will be a man who I meet on my path. He will want commitment. We will look to each other as if we have been seeking this relationship for our whole lives. And from tomorrow I will never mention age again.
I am aware that in exactly 2 weeks the official agreements of the Unimaginable Adventures team will come to an end. This is not to say that we won’t carry on in some form, but this project was designed to take place over a certain period of time and that time is almost up. The aim in all of this is to shape shift us into a new sense of self: to transform the old into a new vital expression of who we are and to send us out of our comfort zone. The premise behind this approach is that if you do things the same way nothing new comes your way and if you have the courage to step into the unknown … well then, the realm of the Unimaginable comes into being.
Looking back on one of the most difficult tasks for both my friends, the boudoir shots, I am now entirely confident that both of them have a much more positive sense of their bodies. They have a healthy dose of self love and they don’t give themselves such a hard time about their physical appearance. And that only happend by having to say YES to everything that came their way and those uncomfortable tasks such as wearing a bikini. I feel it has been a healing. So with this in mind I decided to give them a task that was one step further than shots in their underwear. In fact it is to join an art project called The Great Wall Of Vagina.
In my years of being a photographer, one of my commissions was to work for the first female piercer in London, Teena, and the job was to photograph her piercing work. During that time I had to shoot many genital photos and on one occasion, I set up a studio shoot and 40 women turned up and I had to photograph their most intimate parts. That shoot changed my perception not only of women’s beauty but also of where I fit in with the sisterhood. I had to give up all those ridiculous ideas of what constitues beauty close up. I accepted myself more after the shoot. It was transformational not only for the models but for me, the photographer.
So with that in mind, when I heard about this art work I enquired about it and found out that it is coming to London in May and the artist needs more body casts … of yonis. And my instinct is that this will be a liberation for Jan and Lisa to be part of it and I’m not going to be so mean as to make them do it while I sit on my laurels, so we are all booked in for a vagina cast this Sunday. Lisa jumped and immediately said YES. Jan was a flat NO … until she saw the website and video.
This is the link to The Great Wall Of Vagina: I urge you, our audience to check it out.
Vagina – the canal between the uterus and vulva of a woman
There are many names we use for our female part and Vagina is one I cannot stand. The name I prefer to use is Yoni.
Yoni – a symbol of the female genitals venerated by the Hindus.
When I was first given the task I definitely was a BIG FAT NO. I could not see how this would help me get nearer to meeting my man or even be of any value to me as an experience.
However we cannot say NO, so I went on the ‘Great Wall’ site and listened to interviews with the artist Jamie McCartney and it all seemed cool. I did laugh out loud when he said “it’s art with a social conscience”. I listened, got the concept and felt this is a great piece of work and something I would like to be involved with. What a great way to end Unimaginable Adventures with a cast of my yoni captured in time forever. Unimaginable!
I also listened to some interviews with some of the woman who were already taking part. There was this particular woman who said she was considering having surgery because she felt her Yoni was ugly and after having her cast done realised that she did not have a problem at all, in fact, she was really surprised and cried with joy that she had such a nice one and it was not as big as she thought. She then decided not to have surgery and said every woman considering such invasive surgery that is based on believing your Yoni is ugly and does not meet some indefinable measure, should have a cast done before going ahead with surgery.
Whoever decided what the perfect Yoni should look like anyway and why do woman more and more in the 21st century aspire to have cosmetic surgery to change their look? We have our lips plumped, breasts enlarged, cellulite sucked out, bottoms bleached and now our Yoni’s plumped and mutilated – time to get a life girlfriend’s.
Other woman expressed their surprise that women’s Yoni’s are very different from each other as they had believed we all look the same. It’s clear that the shape of your Yoni does not make top of conversation menu at a dinner party and is a bit of a no go area, unlike men who have cock comparing conversations from an early age.
Also I once read an article about men who took part in a questionnaire and one of the most common thoughts men had about woman Yoni’s is they look like chopped liver. It highlighted that men had quite a lot of negative thoughts about women’s pussies. No wonder a lot of men never want to go down on you and maybe that’s why woman have started to disown parts of their bodies.
I am absolutely delighted that this wall will be on view for all to see, may it break through those myths and boundaries and women and men embrace the ‘Yoni’ in all its splendour and glory.
I love art with a social conscience: I love promoting transformation and breaking through boundaries.
So it’s a massive YES and I will report back after Sunday when all three of us adventurers get our casts done and join our sisters on The Great Wall of Vagina.
Yesterday’s New Moon in Aquarius was the first New Moon of 2012 and an auspicious start for the Chinese New Year. All the reading I have done on this sign is about expansion, thinking outside the box, dreams so huge that you yourself have to move towards them, thoughts you never imagined you would be able to create and creations that have the potential to endure into the future. Well then, how about that Love vibe in 2012? There is real possibility to create that desire into a manifestation and with that I have been thinking big.
It occurred to me that for the last years of dealing with the credit crunch and having my property business halted, that it was time for a new way of thinking. My old business of doing yoga retreats always gave me immense satisfaction and pleasure. I got to travel to wonderful chateaus and villas in Europe and Britain and do one of the things I most love, yoga. So when after turning myself upside down to shift the energy around property I almost had two of them repossessed just before Christmas, it gave me the psychological push to do something different. The repossession has been stopped ( due to my persistent negotiations with a mortgage company reminding them I have never once defaulted on any payments for more than 98 payments: all I did was to inform them I am doing a debt management program) but the thinking outside the box has now gone to a different level. Rather than seeing these properties as my retirement package, I now see them as a means of creating a different dream. And with that I am planning to rent them out on a corporate basis, go to the South of France this summer for 3 months and do all the research I need to create a Yoga Centre in Nice. Why Nice? Because instinctively I feel it has all the elements needed to create a successful yoga centre: people who are interested in being healthy, great climate, beautiful scenery, well heeled successful people in the film industry as well as in property and many other businesses. You can’t really expect to create a yoga centre in the middle of nowhere in a Church Hall and get the clientele to support it. And once I have it established, then I can do more for the community. I am ultimately into giving back to the planet and to the community and I feel it’s exactly what the Aquarian Age is all about.
Often when there is a shock in your world, something unexpected, there is also a shake up of your reality. My sitting through an earthquake in Bali in October ( literally) last year led to a friend saying “Your foundation is shifting”. Then my reality shifted with the way a bank suddenly reacted to the way I was dealing with my finances so my foundation of two flats that I expected to keep for years suddenly allowed me to see what it was like if they were not there. Then I had the space to imagine what I really want in life and what I really want is to create a yoga centre. So in the thinking big I have now also transformed my smallness and lack of risk taking into both business and the desire for Love. The two are definitely connected. Wherever you keep yourself small you will be met with smallness.
And here’s the connection to Love. Rather than thinking I was on a quest for Love and it’s out there somewhere … and then shifting it into an invitation to Love … How about this for a shift. I’m just Sally filled with Love and I have no concerns about it. I am doing the things that give me the most pleasure and I am living big dreams. My dreams include a partner, lover, husband and magical partner. I am simply being Loving and Free.
Love includes simple symbolic acts that remind me of it everywhere. If my face stiffens into a hard expression, I am not loving, therefore I soften. If I stifle my breathing, I am not free. If I worry and stop playing big, I have all the evidence at my fingertips that I am not living my big self. I have to feel my way forward, sideways, up and down. In a symbolic act last week in Italy my dear friend Nyla suggested we seek out St Valentino’s basilica. He is the saint connected to Valentine’s Day. She looked up his history and he was apparently a very loving and well loved man. He had the habit of giving lovers his blessing by handing them a red rose. His relics are kept in a church in a small town near where I was staying and so we went on an honorary journey to see St Valentino. As you know I am not a Catholic but am very comfortable visiting spiritual sites and sending blessings and meditating. So in front of the relics of St Valentino I once again got in touch with my soulmate. I had vague fuzzy feeling in my left hand and imagined I was standing there hand in hand with my true love.
St Valentino’s Basilica
The Stained Glass Window In St Valentino’s Basilica Showing The Lovers
Sally’s task for Jan is to define what kind of man she is are drawing to her and who she will be for that man … and ultimately, what that relationship looks like.
In Jan’s Words:
“It is quite simple really. We are soul mates, lovers and best friends. We share love, our lives, support and take care of each other, work in partnership and have created a wonderful, magical life together that we vibrate out into the world. Who we are inspires others. We make a difference on the planet.
We inspire and nurture each other to be the best we can be. We communicate easily and openly. We honour and value each other’s ideas and opinions. We are at ease with each other’s emotions and differences. The intimacy, integrity, clarity and honesty between us are the key to our success as partners.
We are deeply spiritual and have created a temple outside in nature where we love to do ritual. We also have a great indoor space where we meditate, do Pilates and Yoga.
We are into our health and fitness and we love to walk the hills, swim the oceans and ski the mountains. We travel frequently as it is one of our passions.
We have created a beautiful home by the sea, grow our own organic food and have a small animal refuge. Our home is our sanctuary; a welcoming, peaceful, healing space that is always full of fun, laughter, deep conversation, music and delicious food where we and our friends just love to hang out. We can often be seen dancing under the stars and moon and skinny dipping in our pool. We also have a hot tub outside. We are both lovers of body work and always take time to massage each other. We have great sex and are very affectionate with each other.
Our friends and family always compliment us on what a wonderful rejuvenating time they have when staying with us.
Our life together is a wonderful adventure that we create day by day.”
I gave Lisa the task of creating a strong visual image of her man and her life with him. What would that relationship look like? As we know, visualisation is an incredibly effective method of drawing that which you desire into reality, it was set as an early January task for 2012.
In Lisa’s Words:
“My resume of my man and our relationship.
I had a brainwave! My life dream is this. I have a beautiful farmhouse nestled in the Italian landscape of Nothern Latzio. It overlooks a lake which is walking distance with a healthy climb back up to the house. It has converted outhouses, a yoga studio, a beautiful state of art outdoor yoga platform. It has teepees for treatment rooms, a big swimming pool with a hot tub too, it has a temazcal (sweat lodge) for ritual purification, it has an olive grove where I make my own olive oil, it has a vegetable patch and a beautiful flower garden. the house is beautifully converted with big open fire places, there is a smell of woodburning which is il forno (pizza oven) getting hot, there are lots of animals – chickens, dogs, cats and of course the wildlife. It is heaven. It is my yoga centre business, it’s my family and friends retreat. It’s where I grow old blissfully.
So here’s the brainwave - I’d always visualised it on my own, created it on my own and funded it on my own, always wondered how I was going to make it happen, on my own. So what if I started visualising it with a man? So I got thinking and this is it. He is an Italian living in London aching for his homeland. He has had a similar dream – living off the earth, living a holistic life, wanting to share it with others. He has older kids who visit and hang out with my kids, they become great friends. He has a large family and understand how important mine is to me. He is handsome, charismatic and generous, all the Italian mamas adore him. He is strong and takes the lead. He loves and cares for my girlfriends – he knows I need them as much as I need him. He has ideas which he follows through with. I wake up and he’s already up doing stuff, he doesn’t hang around but he knows how to chill out. He loves to eat, drink, socialise. Our parties are legendary. He’s welcoming of everyone but has his boundaries. He is funny, intelligent and well read. He loves to take me away for surprise weekends to be totally on our own. We are blissfully happy and at our wedding hundreds of our family and friends fly to Italy to celebrate with us. We are each others champion. We make sure we keep each other on track with our dreams. We laugh all the time and when we fight we make up passionately. We can’t keep our hands off each other, after all we’ve been waiting our whole lives for each other. And when will he arrive? Now! Please universe!”
As we slide into 2012 and get down to the last few weeks of this project I set a task for Jan and Lisa to define what kind of man they are drawing to them and who they will be for that man … and ultimately, what that relationship looks like. It is not enough to create a wish list of qualities that we as a society fall prey to: the lists that we see on dating sites of youth, slim, built, rich, successful, sexually proactive, competitive, business owning people. What I am more interested in, is the feeling you get with someone who can see the truth of who you are. I am constantly astonished who the best couples are out there. For me they often don’t look like I expect. I have a girlfriend who is stunningly beautiful and when I met her man, I was reminded of Beauty and The Beast. He wasn’t what I expected her to be with at all! As I got to know the man in question I immediately understood his “beauty”. He has all the qualities that make a gorgeous human being: compassionate, deep, honourable, protective, intelligent, funny, fun and utterly unique. What would he be diminished to, on one of those vacuous websites?
I know three other couples who are outstanding: one gay (K & K) who are my idea of divine love. They have been together for years allowing certain freedoms to each other, deeply loving, unconventional and walking the same path. Another couple are made up of a working class woman and a very posh public school boy. He has all the qualities of polite society and she is raucous and down to earth and they reveal a deep level of connection. And yet another couple are so different in age and one might assume that she, being the younger could have been that blonde bit of fluff that he picked up during a mid-life crisis. However I always knew, she being one of my best friends, that she was as old as the ages, as wise as the wise and as for being fluff! If he wanted an easy ride well that wasn’t going to happen because she was such a big presence that if his ego wasn’t as soft as it is, he would have been blown off course with her hugeness. They are like wonderful elephants, and now 20 years down the line, they remind me of timeless love. They evolve together and sex has been as potent in their, his, later years as it was when she was in her twenties.
Then there are my parents who met as teenagers, had me at age 22/23, both pursued their academic careers and went different ways … and then in their 70′s after both were with other partners for over 27 years, re-met ( 32 years later) and got it on AGAIN! My mother is considerable taller than my little father. He is opinionated and radical and an environmentalist who has camped in the Arctic. My mother is stylish and hates camping and would prefer to be in a 5 star hotel. And yet they are about to move in together this year, into a new house and start again. Amazing!
Now those are not people you see on the internet dating sites. They simply don’t fit the image society wants us to search for. So when I set this task I want to get to the deeper aspects of who we are attracting. Jan set the same task for me so below I am creating 2012 as my year for love. And here’s what that looks like…
My Man Mantra:
He will be a man who I am proud of and who is proud of his own accomplishments. I don’t know what he will do but it will be creative and as he and I want the same level of ease in our life, he will be successful whatever he does. We love our home. We have created the time in our life to be together and we are a priority for each other. Our home is beautiful and a sacred space that we both love to come home to. We will live near the sea and have a beautiful garden. We both love animals and have several. I bring my three cats to that relationship and he is welcoming to them. We could go so far as to have donkeys, dogs and chickens once we find that house together. We love to socialise together and host many dinners and parties. As a couple, our friends think of us as one of those great couples to be with. We both love children and are happy to be surrounded by family. He is a generous spirit and I match that generosity. We celebrate each other’s achievements and often support each other in going for it in our chosen field. We love music and often blast it in the car when we are travelling together. We love travelling and seeing new places. Our life is one long sensual appreciation; good food, good loving and good sex. We are able to take each other to places both sexually and emotionally that we have not previously experienced with other loves. We are that great love for each other. We are soul-mates and have been looking for each other all our lives. Coming to this later makes us like teenagers in each other’s company. We revel in each other’s company. We both have strong spiritual paths. He has a physical practice as I have my yoga practice and we both love being fit and healthy. We both love style. We eat consciously. We tread softly on the planet. We care for the planet. We are so happy to be with each other. We face our challenges together and have straight conversations with each other. We communicate gently and honour each other’s opinions. We never go to bed on an argument. We always sleep together. We are careful with each other’s hurts. Our first priority is LOVE.
Now that’s what I’m sending out to the Universe. Bring it on …2012.
The new tasks for 2012 were delivered after a review of Unimaginable Adventures and from Lisa came the task “ask your friends if they have a single male friend and to go one step further than the last time: make a request that they host an event for you and this single male”. During the review Jan and Lisa had asked me to rack my brains to remember any interactions with single males in the last few weeks and I remembered that on Christmas day I had been invited to dear friends for dinner and there was indeed a single male. I however, was sitting most of the time between two Romanian lesbians and so had only been able to have a distant look and more to the point, a listen to, a guy way down the other end of the table. He had attracted my attention when he spoke about how much he loved animals and being a great lover of animals I had found his words sweet to the ear. He wasn’t at all the type of man I usually go for and so when I mentioned this to the girls, they reminded me of one of my biggest coaching sessions with a Landmark Seminar Leader called David Ure.
I had stepped up to the front of the room at that time, to receive some specific coaching about relationships. His advice had been to “go for the Frog”. Having a range of different kinds of men that I have been out with and married to (one marriage that is), I couldn’t understand what the reference to Frog meant. I didn’t go for men with money, nor looks and had conclusive proof that many of them were “Frogs” of sorts, but during the coaching session over and over David said “look for the Frog”. So ever since then, his words ring in my ears when I am on the look out for that special man.
This insight has led me to take stock of my judgement around men. Because I have such high respect for David Ure, I make a point of making an extra effort when looking at men who to me, have a frog-like quality. I watch and wait that little bit longer. Was that man at the other end of the table a Frog? I decided to find out and asked my friends to set us up on an informal date. They immediately set up a dog walk and lunch yesterday where I could see what the reality of my interest was. And having been out with the man at the end of the table I can conclude that my instincts are pretty spot on. He is a really nice guy who loves animals. We had a fun day out and spent time at his flat with a bunny bouncing around the living room and several birds flying around (which was amazing). But back to the Frog … I kept thinking if he was the kind of Frog in question, wouldn’t I know it? Wouldn’t I be able to see beyond the ordinary? And the answer is no. I came away still befuddled about the Frog. I think the Frog would have to make a move on me so I could see his inner Prince. I am not horrified by Frog men but I do expect a spark even with their mysterious attraction. So I did my task and I am as they say, still available. Ribet Ribet Ribet…
New Year’s Eve was designated as Jan’s 60th Birthday … that’s the last time she mentions age, this side of the coffin! It was a fabulous celebration as you can see. In the speech at the height of the party, she said “It doesn’t mean a thing”….. And that’s the message we came through this transition with … it doesn’t mean a thing, BUT what do we want?????
Lisa In Lisa’s Words:“Well freedom has become a bit of a Mantra for me of late and it is still speaking to me big time. I want to transform my working life to not just earn the bacon but bring true meaning into my world . My yoga training has yet to be put into being and that is what I intend to do this New Year. Fear has been holding me back, making excuses of not having time, not being fit enough, etc etc. But the truth is I’ve been scared of not being good enough. That boring old chestnut. Well being in with the new means OUT with the old too and that’s what I intend from now. If I feel fear in anything that is where I should go, where I should push myself. I’m still reading Feel the Fear And Do It Anyway and while it may be a bit of a self help cliche now in it’s 20 year edition it really shouldn’t be, as fear is what stops all of us getting what we really want. So what I want is for all my dreams to be realised through my own efforts and being brave. Bring it on 2012!
Sally & Michael (OLD FRIENDS)
Jan In Jan’s Words:
“60 happened, I partied into the New Year …I want to meet my Soulmate in the physical realms this year. I want to focus on my finances and create a big cash flow this year. I want to be able to give support to my Aunt and Mum and for their life to be comfortable and easy this year. On a bigger level I want for World Peace and for people to really take care of the planet and all the little creatures and for people to become more conscious about it …. (Jan is recovering from her party and woke up after a day of coma … to say these things).”
Jan At The Peak of The Party:
Sally In Sally’s Words:
I am so elated right now and I feel this year is going to be very good indeed… and I don’t know why and it doesn’t matter …what I want is to meet, be with, enjoy, loving my man .. this year … this year … this year .. and I will write Unimaginable Adventures now in 3 months ( the novel) and then in another three ( the script) …The Yoga Shala that I want to create with Lisa will manifest … We will all make a lot of money … I see my country house near the sea and I am already planning the wallpaper … Creating the Film Unimaginable Adventures; this year we will have the team in place … Robert Kennedy is the editor … Malcolm McLean is the director of photography … Maja Meschede is the Costume Designer … Clive Owen is so damn hot and keeps turning up in Planet Organic Muswell Hill ( he has to play my love interest ….) …The Dalai Lama will make an appearance … Goldie Hawn is our producer ( she would so get this journey!)… and we will be travelling through the airport me and my man, and look over to see Unimaginable Adventures (the best seller book at the bookshop) and I’ll say “darling we have to rush, because we’re meeting Jan and Lisa and Goldie at Cannes Film Festival for the opening night …) … and peace peace peace for the universe…
Jan’s Cake Moment!
So blog people … this has been a year of foundations … we want you to blast the blog out there .. connect us … meet new friends … have really silly fun …
HAPPY NEW YEAR HAPPY 2012 … ARMAGEDDON IS IN YOUR HEAD … XXX”
Jan In Front Of The Wedding Boutique 
